Frozen Girl
I saw a picture that haunted me pop up on my Facebook feed last week. I gazed at a teen girl’s body, literally frozen in time. She fell asleep and froze and her body stayed just as it had been for thousands of years—preserved. There was even blood inside her body, reported the scientist. I am haunted by the white male scientist hovering over this girl in the picture, staring at her as specimen, as scientific experiment. She is girl frozen in time; she is in vulnerable sleeping position. And he hovers over her in hazmat suit ready to examine her. This is not sacred. This child did not give you/us her permission. You/we violate her with our prodding gaze. I yearn for her to rest. I yearn for a new environment for this frozen girl where she can be free from his/our gaze. Please, let her go. Let her go. Please, let this frozen girl go.
Interlude.
And that frozen girl is also me. The girl child in me was frozen in time when she was taken from me, violently ripped from me against my will, without my permission, and without my spirit even being there inside my body. I am that frozen girl. And she is just starting to thaw and peak out from her entrapment. She is resting now. That girl is me. She lives inside me, and I find her when I take the time and space to listen. And, I am afraid of losing her again. I am afraid of her re-freezing. I want her to stay with me. I want to dignify her in all the ways from which she never had access. To clarify, she didn’t have an environment for rest. She didn’t have an environment for rage. She didn’t have an environment for joy. She froze. I froze.
Several days after the picture popped up on my Facebook feed, I googled key words, looking for the story about the frozen girl. I found a New York Times article from 2007 about this frozen girl, who was found in Argentina, an Incan child sacrificed 500 years ago. I intentionally do not provide the link here. I learned that my memory didn’t serve me entirely. She was not frozen for thousands of years; it was for just 500 years. She was frozen with two other children, but we do not see them. I realize there is a story and I feel both compelled to know her and ashamed about how the story came to be known. You see, she was violated when she was sacrificed and then violated again 500 years later, as she was exposed and as the scientists and us, as the audience, came to “discover” her, to look at her to learn from her by what could be ascertained by and in her body.
I don’t know if I want to research this girl. Do I want to read all the reports, or even one of them? I am wondering whether I could write about this girl in a different way. But would I ever be immune from contributing to her violation? I don’t know whether researching her story would bring any justice. I just keep feeling like we should leave her. Just leave her to be. Stop your gaze through words, image, or research. When is it too much, to know? When do we need to stop inquiring? Here, I think about Eve Tuck and Wayne Yang and their praxis of Refusal:
Refusal is not just a “no,” but a redirection to ideas otherwise unacknowledged or unquestioned. Unlike a settler colonial configuration of knowledge that is petulantly exasperated and resentful of limits, a methodology of refusal regards limits on knowledge as productive, as indeed a good thing (Tuck and Wayne 2014, pg. 239).
Perhaps the harder, yet more honest thing to do is explore what this chance glimpse brought up in me. I can tell you my story and I know, even as I do not know her story, that we are connected. We are girls, violated. And she is brown, Indigenous—while I am white. These power frames create new forms that I can never enter or commiserate across, even as I want to care for her. She is separated from me by more than 500 years.
When I write about my frozen girl self, I often imagine a cave and I feel as though she’s been trapped inside for years. Can my metaphor & imagery and her reality find kinship somewhere in my words and art, today? I don’t need to tell her story to rectify and dignify her existence. Can I connect through a mutuality of intention and recovery? I don’t have to know all about her. (Similarly, I do not need to share all of the details about being sexually abused from my little girl self for me/you to believe me and dignify the frozen child in me.) I do not need to know all the details about her violation to believe her, to love her, and to hold her up.
And I know that many would rebuke at a white 48-year-old American claiming kinship with a 15-year-old indigenous girl sacrificed and frozen 500 years ago. There’s a part of me that also bristles at my claim. I am declaring a connection through fire. I understand the divide that I cannot move across and yet, there is something akin, something in my own affect that I learn from her. There is something about the fire in my belly that ignites when I look at the image of the white male scientist prodding her. Maybe it is not kinship. Maybe that word is too strong. But I fight for the girl in me, and I see the girl in me when I look at her. What is that?
This excerpt is drawn from the book I’m writing on radical kinship and childhood.
Tuck, E., & Yang, K. (2014). R-words: refusing research. In Humanizing Research: Decolonizing Qualitative Inquiry with Youth and Communities (pp. 223-248). SAGE Publications, Inc., https://doi.org/10.4135/9781544329611